Being negative isn’t a single-minded approach to life. People have a mixture of
negative and positive thinking… even negative people think happy thoughts!
Being negative is a pattern that develops over time. At some point, being
negative may have served a purpose – but over the long haul, it is only
Going from negative to positive takes time, but it isn’t that hard. Making a change
begins with awareness and a willingness to plug into the positive thoughts that
are already there, but not being expressed. Look at these three small steps that
you can take to shift from being negative to positive:
- Look for the good in all things.
- Practice being positive out loud.
- Hang out with positive people.
Switching gears from negative to positive is possible, one step at a time. The first
step is to look for the good in all things.
Small step #1: What’s good about this situation? In every situation there is
something good. In the beginning it might take all your brain power to come up
with something and your mind might tell you that you’re ridiculous for believing
so. No matter, the first step is finding the good despite the negative. Simply
allowing what’s right with a situation to take up space in your brain can override
negativity. Forget about what is wrong and keep your focus on what’s right.
Small step #2: What can I say about this situation? The second step in
switching from negative to positive is verbalizing your positive thoughts. As
foreign as it might seem, saying positive things is addicting and the more you do
it, the better and more encouraged you’ll be.
Being positive includes being complimentary and encouraging. Your tendency
may be to correct, point out the obvious flaws, or use sarcasm to get a laugh but
those activities create a divide where there should be a bridge. Practice being
positive out loud. Give a compliment, share your enthusiasm, and find something
you can promote. Share your thoughts and watch how they uplift and encourage
those around you. You never know, someone may ask for constructive criticism
and you’ll have an opportunity to share your thoughts on improvements too.
Small step #3: Who can I experience this situation with? Being negative can
become a culture. Who you spend the most time with influences how you
behave. Unless you are an overbearing person who monopolizes situations, most likely you aren’t the only negative person in the room. Misery does love
It might be time for you to change your social circle. Being among positive people
helps you see things through a new lens and helps you practice your new skill
sets. The more you hang out with people who see the best in others and in
situations, the easier and faster you will drop the negativity and adopt the positive
traits you want.
Switching gears from negative to positive is as easy as 1,2,3. Looking for the
good, speaking about the good, and hanging out with good people are three
small steps that will have you feeling positive and energized before you know it.