Being negative isn’t a single-minded approach to life. People have a mixture of negative and positive thinking… even negative people think happy thoughts! Being negative is a pattern that develops over time. At some point, being negative may have served a purpose – but over the long haul, it is only destructive.
Going from negative to positive takes time, but it isn’t that hard. Making a change begins with awareness and a willingness to plug into the positive thoughts that are already there, but not being expressed. Look at these three small steps that you can take to shift from being negative to positive:
- Look for the good in all things.
- Practice being positive out loud.
- Hang out with positive people.
Switching gears from negative to positive is possible, one step at a time. The first step is to look for the good in all things.
Small step #1: What’s good about this situation? In every situation there is something good. In the beginning it might take all your brain power to come up with something and your mind might tell you that you’re ridiculous for believing so. No matter, the first step is finding the good despite the negative. Simply allowing what’s right with a situation to take up space in your brain can override negativity. Forget about what is wrong and keep your focus on what’s right.
Small step #2: What can I say about this situation? The second step in switching from negative to positive is verbalizing your positive thoughts. As foreign as it might seem, saying positive things is addicting and the more you do it, the better and more encouraged you’ll be.
Being positive includes being complimentary and encouraging. Your tendency may be to correct, point out the obvious flaws, or use sarcasm to get a laugh but those activities create a divide where there should be a bridge. Practice being positive out loud. Give a compliment, share your enthusiasm, and find something you can promote. Share your thoughts and watch how they uplift and encourage those around you. You never know, someone may ask for constructive criticism and you’ll have an opportunity to share your thoughts on improvements too.
Small step #3: Who can I experience this situation with? Being negative can become a culture. Who you spend the most time with influences how you behave. Unless you are an overbearing person who monopolizes situations, most likely you aren’t the only negative person in the room. Misery does love
It might be time for you to change your social circle. Being among positive people helps you see things through a new lens and helps you practice your new skill sets. The more you hang out with people who see the best in others and in situations, the easier and faster you will drop the negativity and adopt the positive traits you want.
Switching gears from negative to positive is as easy as 1,2,3. Looking for the good, speaking about the good, and hanging out with good people are three small steps that will have you feeling positive and energized before you know it.